6 Things Your Hairstylist Wants You to Know+

First off, I am soooo fortunate to have clients that I love. I get to work with so many different customers from every walk of life, with all kinds of personalities, that basically just don’t make me hate going into work every day. Dreading waking up every morning, hating my job, and getting burnt out is like one of my biggest fears. Luckily, I almost never experience clients who make me feel that way.

That being said, I do wish for anyone who goes into a salon to be as informed as possible about what they’re getting into. I’ve had a lot of first-time, virgin hair clients, as well as clients who get their hair done every 4-6 weeks for maintenance, but I find myself explaining the same things again and again, or even cringing over things that I want people to know better.

1. You’re not going from black hair to blonde hair without damage.

I’ll start with this because I know people struggle wrapping their mind around this one. The way us hairstylists determine your hair color is by using two systems. The first being on a scale of 1-10. Darkest blue-black hair is a level 1. Lightest white blonde hair is a level 10. Most people are not usually a natural level 1 or 10. The second is determining what hue your hair is. (ash, gold, warm, neutral, beige, etc). Going lighter takes DEDICATION and PATIENCE. Multiple sessions of lightening (that you will pay for individually) will most likely be necessary. I personally will never risk the integrity of your hair because you insist on being platinum blonde immediately when you’re naturally a level 3, or have box black color on your hair. It’s not happening. I truly cringe every time I explain this.

2. Stop moving in my damn chair when I’m cutting your hair.

Biggest pet peeve ever! I want your hair to be perfect. If you’re moving a ton because you’re an excited talker, your haircut is not going to be even. Especially when it comes to precision cuts, it’s soooo important to remain still. If this means not talking for 10 minutes, then don’t talk. Tough love, but it’s just because we care about you and your hair.

3. Don’t try haggling with your stylist.

Honestly, this is more offensive than people realize, and I am speaking on behalf of every stylist out there. This is my life. My career. I wake up and get out of bed to serve YOU. I have to make money to survive just like you and this is how I chose to do so. When you have LONG, THICK hair, it’s extremely time-consuming and it takes a lot more product. Aside from the obvious, though, we go to school specifically for this and truly dedicate ourselves to constantly improving our craft. I can’t begin to tell you the hundreds, to probably thousands of dollars I’ve spent on high-end products and tools because I want the best experience and results for my clients. If you don’t want to drop that kind of cash on a stylist who prioritizes the health of your hair, then go somewhere else. Don’t try bargaining. It’s just frustrating. More often than not, the salon’s control the prices anyways.

4. Communication is essential to any good relationship.

If you book a salon appointment, and for any reason need to cancel or reschedule, it is normal human decency to contact your stylist in advance. Friends or first-time clients. Many hairdressers won’t even think of rebooking a no-show client. I’ve even been to salons who won’t rebook you until you pay for the services you didn’t show up for, in addition to your next appointment. Time is money. Someone else could have been scheduled to get their hair done had you given advance notice. Emergencies are understandable, but blatantly not showing up is disrespectful. Good communication is also 100% essential during a consultation. Make it clear what you want and don’t want. If you’re indecisive, but trust your stylist to do what they think is best, tell them that. But say what you mean. The outcome of your hair totally depends on it.

5. It’s probably Photoshop.

More often than not and usually when it comes to fun unnatural colors, people show me pictures of the hair color they want, and it’s photoshopped. It’s 2016. There are millions of images that have been altered circulating the web. With today’s options for hair color products, it’s probably possible to achieve the color you want anyways, but still having realistic expectations for you hair is important. Another thing to note is that many fashion colors require very light blonde hair to show their true pigment. That requires a lot of going blonde. In which case, refer to #1.

6. Leave box dye on the shelf where it belongs.

I could give you a million reasons to advise you against box coloring your hair at home, but number 1 is it’s not healthy for your hair. “Why?” may you ask. The ultimate difference between having a pro color your hair vs doing it yourself is that box dye is not specially formulated for your individual hair type. It’s meant to drive full force into your hair cuticle, with no regard for the condition your hair is in. It’s formulated at its maximum. If you have fine hair, this could mean serious breakage because of the harshness of the product. If you’ve colored and highlighted your hair numerous times, it’s also at the risk of breaking and becoming extremely dry and brittle. When you go to a salon, we tailor our formulations to be 1. exact color to get where you want to be 2. gentle or strong depending on what’s needed and what we believe you hair can handle and 3. with better quality ingredients in our professional color. If that’s not enough to deter you from “the box”, you should know that it probably won’t come out the color you’re expecting anyways. If you’ve previously colored your hair, every strand now contains artificial pigment. Coloring on top of that (adding pigment to pigment) only creates darker pigment. Not the true color. That’s why your hair went black when you tried to do a light brown. Before you try to do anything wild and end up hating it afterward, my advice is to see a professional to begin with. “If you think it’s expensive to hire a professional, wait until you hire an amateur.” AKA a color correction is time consuming and expensive. Trust me, I’ve been there and I have done them many times on my clients.

 

These are just a few things I wanted everyone to be aware of, from my perspective as a hair artist. Also, everyone’s hair is different and reacts differently. Hair can be unpredictable. Please remember this when you set your hair goals and see your stylist!



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NYE+

Location: Savannah, GA.
    Every year for NYE celebrations I’ve gone with sparkly dresses, shorts, or tops, so that’s exactly what I wanted to stay away from. I kept it pretty simple with black, nude, and a bold red lip. For some reason, I’m always more willing to try out different makeup techniques when it’s a big occasion, rather than on my free time, and it always ends disastrous because I rush. So after applying and removing my makeup twice at this point, I didn’t do anything extravagant, except dust a few sparkles over the top (not actually pictured).

I had never been to Savannah, so the only association I had with the city was Forrest Gump because it was filmed there, and for some reason old people, because it came off as a huge isolated retirement community to me. No idea where that came from. Maybe Georgia in general just doesn’t appeal to me. Possibly because I’m a Gator fan. It’s just a deeply rooted bias apparently lol. Anyway. It was already dark when we arrived, but what I could take in from the Uber on the way downtown , was that it was beautiful.

Processed with VSCOcam with a4 presetOur first destination was The Bar Bar. It’s underground, so you walk down a staircase, and the entrance in underneath this huge building. It’s all brick walls, and there’s pool tables, two separate bars inside, a dance floor, and some of our friends were playing Jenga….I’m not sure if they brought it, or if Bar Bar just has that many different options for fun. We started drinking, and stayed there to ring the new year in.

img_6780My Beeb and I shared our first New Year kiss together, which was the highlight of my year thus far. (hahaha) I’ve never been so excited for my future with someone, and it’s refreshing to begin another chapter with the person you love.

After Bar Bar, we went to another bar that I can’t remember the name of, but I want to say it was an Irish pub type place. Who knows, I was pretty drunk at this point. They were doing karaoke though, and everyone inside was singing along. We didn’t stay for more than 20 minutes, we wanted to go somewhere with more hip-hop music, so we could drink and dance. We ended up at a little eco lounge (what does that actually mean?) called Seed. Okay I looked it up, and it said the drinks are organic. I didn’t know Ciroc is organic? Alright. Whatever we were drinking it regardless. We got a VIP section to ourselves, so after more drinks and Jell-o shots, everyone was having a really good time.

I’m not sure at what point the night ended, but we eventually Uber’d back to our hotel and passed out.

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Photo courtesy of Alexia Tomasik

New Year’s Day we spent the morning exploring downtown Savannah. I’m so in love with all of the old architecture.  The weather was a little chilly and super cloudy. I’d like to revisit when it’s warmer and sunny to enjoy the city to the fullest. There’s an area where you walk down a flight of stairs and under a building then it opens up to the river. Most of the streets are lined with these huge oak trees, and it gives such a warm, homey feeling. It’s just a beautiful place overall.

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Christmas Eve Eve+

On December 23, 2015, we threw a crazy awesome Christmas sweater party. I ordered my sweater from Etsy a couple of weeks before. Being the diehard Drake fan that I am, this was only fitting.

Setting up+

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My roommate & I initially attempted to make a photo booth wall. We got home & started cutting the tablecloth, hung it on the wall, and realized no matter what we did, it looked cheap and shitty. I was super frustrated, & decided to completely throw the idea out the window, and go with something new. We created a small snack bar with desserts, alcohol, and photo props instead. Overall, it was relatively inexpensive to make, and easy to bring together. We started with a $5 roll of wrapping paper from Target. I tried to find something as simple and tasteful as possible…you can’t go wrong with stripes. We strung lights around the edges to make it a little more festive, and hung a Happy Holidays banner over the top. The banner was from Urban Outfitters, on clearance for $10. We used our photo booth’s white tablecloth ($2) & some decorative holiday paper bulbs ($3) from Party City.

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Holiday table set up

On the Table we had an assortment of yummy food items & candies.We baked vanilla cupcakes with marshmallow frosting in striped cupcake liners, then added a peppermint inside, and sprinkled snow-like sprinkles on top. The champagne flutes were also dipped into the frosting & then coated with gold sprinkles. Two more flutes held crystal rock candy and said “Merry x-mas”. For more candy, we picked up a bag of Christmas colored M&M minis, poured them into clear cups, and added a peppermint striped straw. The only random, non festive item was a yummy buffalo dip we made to snack on. I considered adding red food coloring to make it fit in more aesthetically, but just didn’t.

The Party+

Bitches came over, yeah we threw a party. -Drake

Despite not having our photo booth come together, everyone still managed to make use of the props. A few glasses of champagne later…..

Everyone had so much fun. It was the first official party we’ve thrown in the house, and I’d definitely say it was a success.

 

An Aries Moon Perspective+

My moon sign (yes, moon. Not sun-totally different) is in 27º Aries. This might mean nothing to you, unless you’re also an Aries moon, in which case I’d be impressed if you read to the end.

Wherever your moon is placed, the traits from that sign will surface-the moon influences how you react emotionally. 

Assuming you’re somewhat knowledgable in Astrology, I’ll proceed. If not, then keep reading, but be sure to check back for future, more detailed posts on moon signs.

“Nothing quite happens soon enough with this position of the Moon. There is an inherent impatience with getting what they want. Life is a series of emergencies for Lunar Ariens. They live in the moment and have a hard time waiting for things to happen. Whims of the moment take absolute precedence in their lives.” –Cafe Astrology

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Aries Moon in Flames by Myra Oh at Diadem Tattoo

Impatient. I know I explain myself with that word at least once a day. On the road in traffic. Waiting in line at the grocery store. Unlocking my phone to reply to a text I haven’t received back yet. Counting down the minutes until a client’s hair is finished processing. Do you know how many times I’ve removed foils before they were light enough? Not proud, but it all stems from my impatience. It definitely requires a conscious effort to maintain any type of self discipline on my part.

My emotions have a driving force that can only be explained by the element of Aries itself, which is fire. That force can be overwhelming, & easily shift my priorities in the midst of a moment, if I let it. The sign of Aries often carries the traits “ruthless” and “careless” with it. In my opinion, it takes a significant amount of self-awareness to not let these traits control or define you. Young, insecure, or just with no sense of direction, it’s easy to let these powerful & fleeting emotions drag you in an unhealthy way, and hurt others.

Channeling these energies in a more constructive way is so important. Often described as “tireless for a cause”, it’s only beneficial to be conscious and in control of where those energies are going.  Directing my passion into my career, and also into a physical hobby is what I’ve found to work for myself. I’d have to say it worked for extremely successful people such as Steve Jobs, and Bill Gates, who both share an Aries moon. Running, lifting weights, and focusing on the body I want to have, releases so much of my innate restlessness. It gives me a clear mind, which allows me to have the logical approach I want in a given situation… especially since Aries is a moon placement that’s known for letting their heart rule their head.

Knowing and understanding your moon sign is a good first step for personal growth. Knowing and understanding the moon sign of people who are close to you can also be beneficial, helping you to relate to them better, and empathize with how they act/react emotionally. That deeper understanding always gives me a little more tolerance, and a softer approach in dealing with some of my annoyances in everyday life. We are who we are, after all.

Sometimes, the best advice you can take is your own.+

I have a collection of writings from previous experiences that I’ve been compelled to share for a long time. Writing has always been therapeutic for me when my mind is clouded with emotions. The purpose of sharing many of these is my hope in reaching someone who could relate, and thus making them feel less alone in their own personal journey.

Moon opposite Mercury + “There is a conflict here between the head and the heart. Your emotions tell you one thing and your mind tells you something else. The result is a see-saw effect: you can be emotional to the point of irrationality at one moment, and logical the next. How to blend the head and the heart is a constant struggle for you, usually because you have a tendency to resist blending them.”

 

What hurts today won’t hurt tomorrow. Time will fix everything, and God will put things back in order. He’s done so much for you spiritually emotionally & mentally, when you’ve needed it most He hasn’t let you down.  You did what you had to do and undoubtedly put in 1000%. Don’t mess up the rest of God’s plan for you, because you want to allow yourself to be weighed down by the past. That isn’t you. You’re a lover of new beginnings, and shouldn’t compromise that because you feel lonely. You’re not alone. The people who care about you TRULY care, and that’s more than most people can say for themselves. So just be patient. Relax. Give it to God. Lighten your heart up- there’s no person worth burdening you to the point of feeling like you aren’t yourself. You’re truly great, and have the power to do great things, while helping others do great things. Don’t let your purpose go to waste. Emotions are only temporary. Look at the bigger picture, stop being so blind by what’s in front of you. You’re selling yourself short.

2013.

The BIG Ticket+

Location: Metro Park in Jacksonville, Fl.

I experienced The Big Ticket for the first time today. It’s no Warped Tour, having only two stages and taking place in a much smaller venue, but it was still worth the excitement.

Twenty One Pilots and Of Monsters and Men were the two main headliners, and as I read down the lineup, I had no clue who almost anyone else was. Turns out, I actually knew a lot of songs from the other artists once they hit the mic. Walk The Moon, Robert Delong, The Neighborhood, BORNS, and X Ambassadors definitely got me caught up in the hype and had me adding so many songs to my playlists on the way home.

We were fortunate that it was such perfect weather, considering the well known, unpredictable climate Florida offers. Just chilly enough to layer for nighttime, yet warm enough to get away with a crop top during the day.

To my own surprise, I managed to stay sober for 90% of the event.  

We ended the night with Twenty One Pilots, to whom I had never given a fair chance at listening to their music. Needless to say, it’s understandable why they had thousands of people’s undivided attention- with girl’s crying and all.  They have a distinct, unique sound, which in my opinion, is hard to do, and still attract the masses.

The girl’s and I had so much fun, even while I was running off of 4 hours of sleep, no caffeine, and had woken myself up at 7am to get ready. (1 hr hair/makeup, 1 hour to pick out an outfit…this is regular.) But I can’t complain too much, since I do wake up for concerts earlier than I wake up for work every single day….lucky me.

Here’s to The Big Ticket- may next year’s lineup be even better!

First timer+

Well I hope everyone doesn’t think my blog looks like shit. I used to be super tech savvy, then somewhere down the line I got more involved with life, and less involved with my laptop…..Yet here I am. This is multi-purposing as a portfolio and a blog, but mostly to gain a little insight to my mind/heart. You ever feel like you had a second chance at life? I do. So this is where it begins.