Client do and don’t+

Whether it’s your first time visiting a salon or your thousandth, there are a few things you should know. Some are common sense, but as we all know…. common sense isn’t so common. From booking your appointment to checking out, these little things will make your salon experience all the better. I’ll keep this list as straightforward as possible!

Client do’s

  • Confirm your appointment. Whether by text, phone call, or online- we need your confirmation so we know we can expect you!
  • Come prepared with a couple photos as inspiration for your hair. (Make sure you’re visualizing the HAIR in the picture on YOU. Trust me, we all wish we looked as sexy as Lauren Conrad or JLo)
  • Allow your stylist to offer suggestions outside of your ideas & comfort zone. (You did come to us for our personal opinions and expertise, right? Let us help you live up to your fullest, most beautiful potential!)
  • Ask questions. If you want to know how your stylist is getting your hair from A to B, just ask. It’s our job to know the chemistry behind our products and formulas.
  • TRUST your stylist. We know how valuable your hair is to you- our’s is valuable to us too! We do want you to love your hair as much as we love our job. Trust us. & if you really hate something, it can always be adjusted! So no worries.
  • Tip your girl or guy! Just like in any service industry, hair artist’s accept tips. Thank them for making you obsessed with your hair again!
  • Refer your friends (or randoms!) to us by handing out our business cards. A referral truly is the greatest compliment to any stylist. Make sure they give us your name! Many stylists offer reward programs once you refer a certain number of people. Plus we want to thank you!

Client don’ts

  • Never no show your appointment. Not only is it insanely disrespectful, but it’s a complete waste of our time. We could have spent the 3 hours we booked for your balayage on somebody else- a paying customer who would actually show up.
  • Don’t ask a stylist for their opinion or direction, then run it to another stylist to create. A second opinion is always great, but if you have no intention of booking an appointment while discussing your hair, then it’s rude and shady…and a waste of our time.
  • Don’t tell us how to do our job. We love to hear what you like and hate- that’s how we’re gonna learn your preferences- but sometimes clients think that just because they saw a youtube tutorial or have always done it themselves, they know best. Not always the case. If we listened to your exact instruction, you might end up hating your hair. Let us do what we’ve spent so much time learning to do! (We love it even more when you give us full creative reins)
  • Many stylists are flexible but don’t try to make them feel bad for not being able to “squeeze you in” when you decided last minute to try to book an appointment. Many of us schedule months out in advance. If your hair is important to you, then schedule on your day off, or leave work a little earlier. We’re all working and we all have lives outside of work, so make your appointment within your salon’s operating hours.
  • Don’t bash other stylists (or anyone) to us! Sometimes those people are our friends, and we know every hair artist isn’t perfect. And we don’t think we are! If you dislike something your stylist did, TELL THEM! We are always happy to adjust your tone, tweak your cut, or add a couple lowlights. Nothing is irreversible, so there’s no need to be negative about it! Just be kindly upfront to your hair guru. We don’t want you to hate your hair- or us! Give us a chance to make you love us again!

 

These are a few of the things we take seriously as hair artist’s in our industry. We are passionate about our jobs, and we want you to feel passionate about your beauty! Every stylist is different and we all have our own personal touch of doing things, but I think most of us can agree to these do and don’ts. If you have any questions or concerns before, during, or after your appointment, don’t hesitate to be open with your hairdresser. Contact them!

Guardian Angel+

 

Dad, without you there’d be a lot of squeeky, broken, unlit, cracked and chipped, overgrown, empty, and busted things in my life.

People often undervalue a relationship with their father. Aside from this person being one of the two who gave you life, Dads represent something strong on psychological level. And everyone has probably heard the term “daddy issues” at some point or another. Unstable women who “acted out” due to a deep-rooted relationship issue (if any) with their padre. I always thought it was comical, (a big thanks to Barney Stinson) more than anything… until I lost my dad.

After the initial shock wore down some, and I could accept the reality of what happened, I realized so many things. First, the entire world felt so much emptier. The presence that was always there, even when it wasn’t, was noticeably gone. It felt hollow. But what lined that hollowness, was a mix of so many different, new feelings. My backbone was gone. I never realized the amount of stability I depended on him for. Basically every ounce. My entire life I felt borderline invincible, that I could handle any and everything thrown at me. I’d go where angels feared to tread. But it was because I felt like my dad could too. Neither of us lacked in willpower. So where I fell short, I assumed he wouldn’t. Having that security taken from you is confusing, at the very least. It made me question my own stability (whereas I am typically adamantly self-reliant). I realized how my confidence in decision making was wavering. There wasn’t that someone there to catch me if I slipped badly, and that makes every minuscule choice seem so much more crucial.

It’s just a constant painful realization when you miss someone, but they aren’t here to miss. From the beginning to the end of a normal day, things flow smoothly. But over the long run, you look back to realize time is putting distance between your memories that were once so fresh. It’s hard to fathom this world without your dad.

So far, it hasn’t been Father’s Day or on my dad’s birthday when it hits me. It’s always in the little moments, like when I hear a song he would always play, or see a car like one he drove. Those moments when I have questions and the person I trusted to have answers is no longer here. It’s those times I’m not prepared for that make me withdraw and have to regather myself. It’s easily a lonely feeling, and it’s capable of making you feel a little smaller in the world if you let it.

But I’ve realized there is no right way to handle a parent passing. You are still forced to stand up on your hind legs and carry out your plans- you just do it with a little more vigor and a little more tenacity. That love isn’t replaced by motivation but accompanied by it. And each time you find yourself wishing they were here, you can look up and know that somewhere they truly are.

How To Have Healthy Hair+

Have you ever been to the point where you’re in total distress because your hair is damaged, and you’re just ready to chop it off entirely? I have and I feel your pain. Trust me. Sometimes a good cut is absolutely necessary (and when I say ‘cut’, I mean more than one measly little inch), but I know how painful it is to go in for a major chop when your length is your security blanket. As a stylist, hair health is my biggest priority. I burnt my hair to a crisp in junior high (literally, it just sizzled off onto the floor from my flat iron) and from that moment I learned that there are some boundaries to coloring and heat usage.

On the bright side though, there are many things you can do to start growing a healthy luscious mane. First and foremost:

Use a PROFESSIONAL shampoo and conditioner.

Tresseme is not professional….anything that can be purchased at a drugstore, Walmart, Target, etc. is not professional, and essentially it will strip the color from your hair fast as hell. On top of that, so many of them are packed with silicones and waxes- I’ve watched stylists actually scrape it off the surface of the hair. Salon retail products are specifically formulated to be more gentle and are tailored to individual hair types/needs. But really, the question you should ask yourself is, “Why spend so much money on great quality when I get my hair professionally colored, if I’m going to go home and not use products that will maintain that same quality?” Spend a few extra dollars on better products that you are using in your hair on a day to day basis. It will pay off in the long run.

Get a leave-in conditioner.

Once you’ve washed your hair with your great shampoo and conditioner, spray in some leave-in conditioner before you style it (or don’t style it). A leave-in conditioner is going to truly protect your hair from most things that are damaging (sun damage, heat damage, breakage), plus it doubles as a fabulous detangler. My favorite is It’s a 10 plus Keratin. It’s a heavier formula which is good for thick, curly, or even just dry hair. They have a light version you can opt for if you have finer locks, to prevent any type of oiliness or keep from weighing your hair down. A good trick is to spray a few pumps in your hand and run through your mids to ends, to keep off your scalp and ensure you get every hair covered.

One word: OLAPLEX.

Olaplex has blown the industry off of it’s feet in the last few years. It’s a salon exclusive product, but you have a couple options on how to utilize it. First, and most common- getting the Olaplex ingredient added into your lightener or color at the salon. It works while your hair processes (when the cuticle is open). It gets in there and binds the broken bonds in your hair back together. When you have destroyed disulfide bonds, your hair is weak, dry, and brittle. Olaplex is permanent- it doesn’t sit on top of the hair, or coat it. It works within the hair strand. Your second option (if you prefer not to highlight or color you hair) is to get an Olaplex repair treatment. It’s a clear glaze + Olaplex, and will help repair your hair and give you a ton of shine. If you are still curious, you can read more about it here.

Buy a deep conditioning hair mask.

Occasionally, you should use a heavier conditioner that penetrates deeper into your hair. This is important, especially if you have very dry hair.  My recommendation is once a week- slather a deep conditioner alllll over, put your hair in a shower cap, (or if you’re feeling resourceful, use a plastic bag) and sleep in it. Wake up and rinse it out. I promise, your heart will melt when you run your fingers through it and style it afterward! My favorite is the Moroccan Oil Restorative Hair Mask. It’s also infused with protein and argan oil, and will encourage hair elasticity. Curly hair girls, you will LOVE this!

These are the best steps you can take to maximize healthy hair growth. Also, minimize heat usage; turn the heat setting down if you must use a hot tool. It really doesn’t need to be as hot as you think it does, you’re just creating excess damage. And most importantly, cut your damn hair. Avoiding hair cuts and trims will increase split ends and breakage. When your ends are bad, the damage travels up the hair strand, essentially getting shorter and shorter. Your hair may be growing from your scalp, but it’s breaking off at your ends, thus seeming to never grow. So trim your hair and just nip the issue in the bud.

If you have any questions about what products are right for you specifically, don’t hesitate to ask in the comments below!

A journey, not a destination+

There’s this misconception that if you do all the right things, the right way, in the right order, then you will be rewarded and fulfilled and will experience eternal happiness. Or if you make 6 figures a year, everything else will fall into place. Or finding your soulmate will be the cure to all your problems. I feel like these are all such delusional beliefs. Some of these may uncomplicate certain aspects of our lives to an extent, but by 21, I’ve definitely found that genuine happiness comes from within.

“People tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will descend like fine weather if you’re fortunate. But happiness is the result of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly.” -Elizabeth Gilbert

“People can only love you from their own level of consciousness.” Understand that everyone has a different script in life. Everyone evolves at a different pace. But the bottom line is that the way people treat you is truly a direct reflection of how they feel towards themselves. How much time someone has invested in themselves & their growth process can be obvious. When this resonates, it becomes easy to let things go.

“Love yourself” is advice you’re swarmed with so much that it can easily lose it’s true meaning. You hear it, and you’re like “Uh, I’m me and I do love being me. I’m super blessed.” and so you write it off. Me being the stubborn person I am, any hint of advice goes in one ear, and out the other. And those are two words I gave no true meaning of my own to for pretty much forever, and I didn’t really know it. The reality of not loving yourself is destructive. To yourself and others. “Hurt people hurt people.” It doesn’t easily differentiate right from wrong. It clouds you from your own better judgement. It settles. It chases. It’s sometimes hostile. It’s unstable. Just being aware may never initiate growth. I believe there are times that life will break people down to nothing, to give them the opportunity to become the person they want/need to become. When those moments happen to you, you’re given a chance to redefine everything you thought you knew. Most importantly, outlining what you will tolerate and let into your realm of peace. I believe happiness begins with loving yourself, and knowing what you want.

Striving for happiness means there is no room for resentment. Forgive others…this has nothing to do with them, but it’s necessary for your well-being. And while harboring that negative energy can destroy you, it’s only half as bad as holding onto negative people. Let people go. 

“I will not make space in the cracks and crevices of my heart for people who don’t belong. I won’t prioritize someone when I’m not a priority to them. I will not apologize when I’m not wrong. I will not spend money on a person who can’t spend time with me. I will not be there because you are alone. I will not be a shoulder to cry on because you push others away. I will not give you advice you refuse to take. I don’t need any more people taking away the substance from my heart, downsizing it, and leaving me with nothing. I refuse to allow myself to feel numb because of the carelessness other’s show to our hearts. I will just remove myself from the equation. I’m absolutely intolerant of these things.”
-2014

Getting to a place of inner peace is only half the battle, while maintaining it is the other half. This is something I have had to come to terms with myself. Being genuinely happy in a given moment can feel unshakable. It’s easy to have total confidence in your emotions when they are so overwhelmingly positive. It just radiates from you. But inevitably there are twists, and turns, and curveballs that all have the power to discourage you. And there are people out there who will totally deplete your energy. Maintaining this sense of peace by dedicating yourself to being an ever growing and ever changing soul, is vital to your happiness, and it requires conscious effort. Emotions are temporary and unreliable, and knowing this will help you find balance.

 And that’s how you live. You wake up every morning with a choice. You choose to adopt a positive attitude. You choose to find beauty in the small things. You choose to set your standards high, and your goals higher. You release any bad energy instead of bottling it in. It’s so important to be self aware. Happiness really, truly is the result of personal effort. Let go of negative thought patterns and replace them with kinder, more gentle thoughts. When you consciously make the decision to be happy, and choose other happy and loving people to surround yourself with, you’ll find yourself more easily maintaining that level of energy. It only takes effort on your part.

6 Things Your Hairstylist Wants You to Know+

First off, I am soooo fortunate to have clients that I love. I get to work with so many different customers from every walk of life, with all kinds of personalities, that basically just don’t make me hate going into work every day. Dreading waking up every morning, hating my job, and getting burnt out is like one of my biggest fears. Luckily, I almost never experience clients who make me feel that way.

That being said, I do wish for anyone who goes into a salon to be as informed as possible about what they’re getting into. I’ve had a lot of first-time, virgin hair clients, as well as clients who get their hair done every 4-6 weeks for maintenance, but I find myself explaining the same things again and again, or even cringing over things that I want people to know better.

1. You’re not going from black hair to blonde hair without damage.

I’ll start with this because I know people struggle wrapping their mind around this one. The way us hairstylists determine your hair color is by using two systems. The first being on a scale of 1-10. Darkest blue-black hair is a level 1. Lightest white blonde hair is a level 10. Most people are not usually a natural level 1 or 10. The second is determining what hue your hair is. (ash, gold, warm, neutral, beige, etc). Going lighter takes DEDICATION and PATIENCE. Multiple sessions of lightening (that you will pay for individually) will most likely be necessary. I personally will never risk the integrity of your hair because you insist on being platinum blonde immediately when you’re naturally a level 3, or have box black color on your hair. It’s not happening. I truly cringe every time I explain this.

2. Stop moving in my damn chair when I’m cutting your hair.

Biggest pet peeve ever! I want your hair to be perfect. If you’re moving a ton because you’re an excited talker, your haircut is not going to be even. Especially when it comes to precision cuts, it’s soooo important to remain still. If this means not talking for 10 minutes, then don’t talk. Tough love, but it’s just because we care about you and your hair.

3. Don’t try haggling with your stylist.

Honestly, this is more offensive than people realize, and I am speaking on behalf of every stylist out there. This is my life. My career. I wake up and get out of bed to serve YOU. I have to make money to survive just like you and this is how I chose to do so. When you have LONG, THICK hair, it’s extremely time-consuming and it takes a lot more product. Aside from the obvious, though, we go to school specifically for this and truly dedicate ourselves to constantly improving our craft. I can’t begin to tell you the hundreds, to probably thousands of dollars I’ve spent on high-end products and tools because I want the best experience and results for my clients. If you don’t want to drop that kind of cash on a stylist who prioritizes the health of your hair, then go somewhere else. Don’t try bargaining. It’s just frustrating. More often than not, the salon’s control the prices anyways.

4. Communication is essential to any good relationship.

If you book a salon appointment, and for any reason need to cancel or reschedule, it is normal human decency to contact your stylist in advance. Friends or first-time clients. Many hairdressers won’t even think of rebooking a no-show client. I’ve even been to salons who won’t rebook you until you pay for the services you didn’t show up for, in addition to your next appointment. Time is money. Someone else could have been scheduled to get their hair done had you given advance notice. Emergencies are understandable, but blatantly not showing up is disrespectful. Good communication is also 100% essential during a consultation. Make it clear what you want and don’t want. If you’re indecisive, but trust your stylist to do what they think is best, tell them that. But say what you mean. The outcome of your hair totally depends on it.

5. It’s probably Photoshop.

More often than not and usually when it comes to fun unnatural colors, people show me pictures of the hair color they want, and it’s photoshopped. It’s 2016. There are millions of images that have been altered circulating the web. With today’s options for hair color products, it’s probably possible to achieve the color you want anyways, but still having realistic expectations for you hair is important. Another thing to note is that many fashion colors require very light blonde hair to show their true pigment. That requires a lot of going blonde. In which case, refer to #1.

6. Leave box dye on the shelf where it belongs.

I could give you a million reasons to advise you against box coloring your hair at home, but number 1 is it’s not healthy for your hair. “Why?” may you ask. The ultimate difference between having a pro color your hair vs doing it yourself is that box dye is not specially formulated for your individual hair type. It’s meant to drive full force into your hair cuticle, with no regard for the condition your hair is in. It’s formulated at its maximum. If you have fine hair, this could mean serious breakage because of the harshness of the product. If you’ve colored and highlighted your hair numerous times, it’s also at the risk of breaking and becoming extremely dry and brittle. When you go to a salon, we tailor our formulations to be 1. exact color to get where you want to be 2. gentle or strong depending on what’s needed and what we believe you hair can handle and 3. with better quality ingredients in our professional color. If that’s not enough to deter you from “the box”, you should know that it probably won’t come out the color you’re expecting anyways. If you’ve previously colored your hair, every strand now contains artificial pigment. Coloring on top of that (adding pigment to pigment) only creates darker pigment. Not the true color. That’s why your hair went black when you tried to do a light brown. Before you try to do anything wild and end up hating it afterward, my advice is to see a professional to begin with. “If you think it’s expensive to hire a professional, wait until you hire an amateur.” AKA a color correction is time consuming and expensive. Trust me, I’ve been there and I have done them many times on my clients.

 

These are just a few things I wanted everyone to be aware of, from my perspective as a hair artist. Also, everyone’s hair is different and reacts differently. Hair can be unpredictable. Please remember this when you set your hair goals and see your stylist!



NYE+

Location: Savannah, GA.
    Every year for NYE celebrations I’ve gone with sparkly dresses, shorts, or tops, so that’s exactly what I wanted to stay away from. I kept it pretty simple with black, nude, and a bold red lip. For some reason, I’m always more willing to try out different makeup techniques when it’s a big occasion, rather than on my free time, and it always ends disastrous because I rush. So after applying and removing my makeup twice at this point, I didn’t do anything extravagant, except dust a few sparkles over the top (not actually pictured).

I had never been to Savannah, so the only association I had with the city was Forrest Gump because it was filmed there, and for some reason old people, because it came off as a huge isolated retirement community to me. No idea where that came from. Maybe Georgia in general just doesn’t appeal to me. Possibly because I’m a Gator fan. It’s just a deeply rooted bias apparently lol. Anyway. It was already dark when we arrived, but what I could take in from the Uber on the way downtown , was that it was beautiful.

Processed with VSCOcam with a4 presetOur first destination was The Bar Bar. It’s underground, so you walk down a staircase, and the entrance in underneath this huge building. It’s all brick walls, and there’s pool tables, two separate bars inside, a dance floor, and some of our friends were playing Jenga….I’m not sure if they brought it, or if Bar Bar just has that many different options for fun. We started drinking, and stayed there to ring the new year in.

img_6780My Beeb and I shared our first New Year kiss together, which was the highlight of my year thus far. (hahaha) I’ve never been so excited for my future with someone, and it’s refreshing to begin another chapter with the person you love.

After Bar Bar, we went to another bar that I can’t remember the name of, but I want to say it was an Irish pub type place. Who knows, I was pretty drunk at this point. They were doing karaoke though, and everyone inside was singing along. We didn’t stay for more than 20 minutes, we wanted to go somewhere with more hip-hop music, so we could drink and dance. We ended up at a little eco lounge (what does that actually mean?) called Seed. Okay I looked it up, and it said the drinks are organic. I didn’t know Ciroc is organic? Alright. Whatever we were drinking it regardless. We got a VIP section to ourselves, so after more drinks and Jell-o shots, everyone was having a really good time.

I’m not sure at what point the night ended, but we eventually Uber’d back to our hotel and passed out.

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Photo courtesy of Alexia Tomasik

New Year’s Day we spent the morning exploring downtown Savannah. I’m so in love with all of the old architecture.  The weather was a little chilly and super cloudy. I’d like to revisit when it’s warmer and sunny to enjoy the city to the fullest. There’s an area where you walk down a flight of stairs and under a building then it opens up to the river. Most of the streets are lined with these huge oak trees, and it gives such a warm, homey feeling. It’s just a beautiful place overall.

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Christmas Eve Eve+

On December 23, 2015, we threw a crazy awesome Christmas sweater party. I ordered my sweater from Etsy a couple of weeks before. Being the diehard Drake fan that I am, this was only fitting.

Setting up+

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My roommate & I initially attempted to make a photo booth wall. We got home & started cutting the tablecloth, hung it on the wall, and realized no matter what we did, it looked cheap and shitty. I was super frustrated, & decided to completely throw the idea out the window, and go with something new. We created a small snack bar with desserts, alcohol, and photo props instead. Overall, it was relatively inexpensive to make, and easy to bring together. We started with a $5 roll of wrapping paper from Target. I tried to find something as simple and tasteful as possible…you can’t go wrong with stripes. We strung lights around the edges to make it a little more festive, and hung a Happy Holidays banner over the top. The banner was from Urban Outfitters, on clearance for $10. We used our photo booth’s white tablecloth ($2) & some decorative holiday paper bulbs ($3) from Party City.

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Holiday table set up

On the Table we had an assortment of yummy food items & candies.We baked vanilla cupcakes with marshmallow frosting in striped cupcake liners, then added a peppermint inside, and sprinkled snow-like sprinkles on top. The champagne flutes were also dipped into the frosting & then coated with gold sprinkles. Two more flutes held crystal rock candy and said “Merry x-mas”. For more candy, we picked up a bag of Christmas colored M&M minis, poured them into clear cups, and added a peppermint striped straw. The only random, non festive item was a yummy buffalo dip we made to snack on. I considered adding red food coloring to make it fit in more aesthetically, but just didn’t.

The Party+

Bitches came over, yeah we threw a party. -Drake

Despite not having our photo booth come together, everyone still managed to make use of the props. A few glasses of champagne later…..

Everyone had so much fun. It was the first official party we’ve thrown in the house, and I’d definitely say it was a success.

 

An Aries Moon Perspective+

My moon sign (yes, moon. Not sun-totally different) is in 27º Aries. This might mean nothing to you, unless you’re also an Aries moon, in which case I’d be impressed if you read to the end.

Wherever your moon is placed, the traits from that sign will surface-the moon influences how you react emotionally. 

Assuming you’re somewhat knowledgable in Astrology, I’ll proceed. If not, then keep reading, but be sure to check back for future, more detailed posts on moon signs.

“Nothing quite happens soon enough with this position of the Moon. There is an inherent impatience with getting what they want. Life is a series of emergencies for Lunar Ariens. They live in the moment and have a hard time waiting for things to happen. Whims of the moment take absolute precedence in their lives.” –Cafe Astrology

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Aries Moon in Flames by Myra Oh at Diadem Tattoo

Impatient. I know I explain myself with that word at least once a day. On the road in traffic. Waiting in line at the grocery store. Unlocking my phone to reply to a text I haven’t received back yet. Counting down the minutes until a client’s hair is finished processing. Do you know how many times I’ve removed foils before they were light enough? Not proud, but it all stems from my impatience. It definitely requires a conscious effort to maintain any type of self discipline on my part.

My emotions have a driving force that can only be explained by the element of Aries itself, which is fire. That force can be overwhelming, & easily shift my priorities in the midst of a moment, if I let it. The sign of Aries often carries the traits “ruthless” and “careless” with it. In my opinion, it takes a significant amount of self-awareness to not let these traits control or define you. Young, insecure, or just with no sense of direction, it’s easy to let these powerful & fleeting emotions drag you in an unhealthy way, and hurt others.

Channeling these energies in a more constructive way is so important. Often described as “tireless for a cause”, it’s only beneficial to be conscious and in control of where those energies are going.  Directing my passion into my career, and also into a physical hobby is what I’ve found to work for myself. I’d have to say it worked for extremely successful people such as Steve Jobs, and Bill Gates, who both share an Aries moon. Running, lifting weights, and focusing on the body I want to have, releases so much of my innate restlessness. It gives me a clear mind, which allows me to have the logical approach I want in a given situation… especially since Aries is a moon placement that’s known for letting their heart rule their head.

Knowing and understanding your moon sign is a good first step for personal growth. Knowing and understanding the moon sign of people who are close to you can also be beneficial, helping you to relate to them better, and empathize with how they act/react emotionally. That deeper understanding always gives me a little more tolerance, and a softer approach in dealing with some of my annoyances in everyday life. We are who we are, after all.

Sometimes, the best advice you can take is your own.+

I have a collection of writings from previous experiences that I’ve been compelled to share for a long time. Writing has always been therapeutic for me when my mind is clouded with emotions. The purpose of sharing many of these is my hope in reaching someone who could relate, and thus making them feel less alone in their own personal journey.

Moon opposite Mercury + “There is a conflict here between the head and the heart. Your emotions tell you one thing and your mind tells you something else. The result is a see-saw effect: you can be emotional to the point of irrationality at one moment, and logical the next. How to blend the head and the heart is a constant struggle for you, usually because you have a tendency to resist blending them.”

 

What hurts today won’t hurt tomorrow. Time will fix everything, and God will put things back in order. He’s done so much for you spiritually emotionally & mentally, when you’ve needed it most He hasn’t let you down.  You did what you had to do and undoubtedly put in 1000%. Don’t mess up the rest of God’s plan for you, because you want to allow yourself to be weighed down by the past. That isn’t you. You’re a lover of new beginnings, and shouldn’t compromise that because you feel lonely. You’re not alone. The people who care about you TRULY care, and that’s more than most people can say for themselves. So just be patient. Relax. Give it to God. Lighten your heart up- there’s no person worth burdening you to the point of feeling like you aren’t yourself. You’re truly great, and have the power to do great things, while helping others do great things. Don’t let your purpose go to waste. Emotions are only temporary. Look at the bigger picture, stop being so blind by what’s in front of you. You’re selling yourself short.

2013.

The BIG Ticket+

Location: Metro Park in Jacksonville, Fl.

I experienced The Big Ticket for the first time today. It’s no Warped Tour, having only two stages and taking place in a much smaller venue, but it was still worth the excitement.

Twenty One Pilots and Of Monsters and Men were the two main headliners, and as I read down the lineup, I had no clue who almost anyone else was. Turns out, I actually knew a lot of songs from the other artists once they hit the mic. Walk The Moon, Robert Delong, The Neighborhood, BORNS, and X Ambassadors definitely got me caught up in the hype and had me adding so many songs to my playlists on the way home.

We were fortunate that it was such perfect weather, considering the well known, unpredictable climate Florida offers. Just chilly enough to layer for nighttime, yet warm enough to get away with a crop top during the day.

To my own surprise, I managed to stay sober for 90% of the event.  

We ended the night with Twenty One Pilots, to whom I had never given a fair chance at listening to their music. Needless to say, it’s understandable why they had thousands of people’s undivided attention- with girl’s crying and all.  They have a distinct, unique sound, which in my opinion, is hard to do, and still attract the masses.

The girl’s and I had so much fun, even while I was running off of 4 hours of sleep, no caffeine, and had woken myself up at 7am to get ready. (1 hr hair/makeup, 1 hour to pick out an outfit…this is regular.) But I can’t complain too much, since I do wake up for concerts earlier than I wake up for work every single day….lucky me.

Here’s to The Big Ticket- may next year’s lineup be even better!